“If it doesn’t matter who wins or loses, then why do they keep score?"
My favorite quote. Kids always look at me and cheer when I say that. Now the baseball league we belong to dictates that winning doesn't matter, everyone makes the playoffs and everyone should play every position. I agree that everyone should try every position, but winning and losing is very important, because if you lose every game, yeah you make the playoffs, but the kids are demoralized and you end up facing the team with the two best players in the league. The result -you get your butts kicked. How is all of this good for your confidence? What good habits do you form from this? If a score is kept, you have to try your hardest to win because that will lead you to practice the good habits that will allow you to succeed. If a score is not being kept, then you have to relax. Once you realize the difference, you can have fun and be successful.
"Winning is not a sometime thing…it’s an all the time thing. You don’t win once in a while…you don’t do the right thing once in a while…you do them right all the time. Winning is a habit."
Winning takes a lot of forms. It might be winning on the field or on the court when you look at the score board. What I think this means though is that to be successful, you have to try your hardest and practice everything you do to get into good habits - because good habits only lead to success and good things. I could be in sports, definitely. But this also means winning in school and at work. If winning at a pursuit becomes a habit, it's a tough habit to break.
“Confidence is contagious and so is lack of confidence, and a customer will recognize both.”
Clearly a quote from the Lombardi sales movie referred to above. But it applies everywhere you turn in life. You are trying to win in everything you do. It might not be a win in the conventional way, but it s a chance to succeed. Maybe its sports, but its more likely in school and at the workplace. If you are confident (or you lack confidence), it will be recognized and remembered. You can succeed in life if you believe in yourself. But just as easily, you can fail if you don't believe in yourself.
“The harder you work, the harder it is to surrender.”
One of the worst things that you can do is to quit. But giving up and quitting is not a simple concept to understand. Giving something a try and failing to succeed no matter what you try is not quitting if you decide to move on. Simply stated, not matter what you try, work as hard as you can and if you cannot get it to work, then find something else that you can succeed in. Confidence is not built by trying as hard as you can to do something that you cannot do indefinitely. Once you learn the difference and know your limits, the better you will become.
“The spirit, the will to win and the will to excel – these are the things that endure and these are the qualities that are so much more important than any of the events that occasion them.”
An over-arching theme of Lombardi's entire life. Another way to look at it is thinking about it using a different metaphor. Success is derived not from the destination, but from the journey getting there. Habits leading to excellence and practicing the right things to increase your will to win are so much more important than the individual win. And it leads to more success.
“Perfection is not attainable. But if we chase perfection, we can catch excellence.”
No one is perfect. And there is nothing you will ever do that will require perfection. It is the essence of being human to be imperfect. The interesting part about life is figuring out a response to the imperfections you will face in your life. But if you practice good habits and you practice willing yourself to succeed, you have a great chance to be successful at whatever you try to do. That's all I can ask.
